Raymond Hynes: When the Storm of a Lifetime Hits in Mid-Dance

David Barnard, Patricia Boston R.N., Anna Towers and Yanna Lambrinidou

in Crossing Over

Published in print March 2000 | ISBN: 9780195123432
Published online November 2011 | e-ISBN: 9780199999835 | DOI:
Raymond Hynes: When the Storm of a Lifetime Hits in Mid-Dance

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This chapter discusses the case of Raymond Haynes and his family when they learned that he had an incurable cancer. The Hayneses pursued a unique way of dealing with Mr. Haynes's illness, a way that was entirely different from that which the palliative care team wanted to see. Contrasting perspectives and cultural differences contributed to the differing views of the family and the medical professionals. A family that proudly expresses its Irish origins, the Hayneses kept negative emotions at bay, often sporting smiles and strong face despite the declining health of Mr. Haynes. The members of the Haynes family were practical and stoical. When challenged by life events, they usually sought a commonsense, step-by-step solution. This is how they dealt with the illness. Despite their efforts to keep a strong front, the palliative care team nevertheless expected emotions and feelings to surge. The silence and the avoidance of the family to directly address the problem were two powerful forces. Regardless of the elusiveness of emotions and the rigidity of the family, the Hayneses and the team managed to navigate a course that led to “successful” death at home.

Keywords: family; incurable cancer; dealing; cultural differences; emotions; stoical; practical; death at home

Chapter.  8755 words. 

Subjects: Palliative Medicine

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