The Sublimity of Love

Mari Ruti

in The Singularity of Being

Published by Fordham University Press

Published in print August 2012 | ISBN: 9780823243143
Published online January 2013 | e-ISBN: 9780823243181 | DOI:

Series: Psychoanalytic Interventions

The Sublimity of Love

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This chapter starts from the premise that there is nothing that reveals Lacan's ethics of sublimation more clearly than the experience of romantic love. Explaining why the love object is, for Lacan, always a “refound object” – an object that in one way or other evokes something about the originary lost (non)object, the Thing – the chapter distinguishes between the paralysis of narcissistic desire on the one hand and the kind of idealizing attitude that aims to induce the sublime to appear within the love object on the other. Arguing that while narcissism represents an ethical failure, generous forms of idealization – forms that resonate with clandestine aspects of the other's being – do not violate his or her integrity, but rather promise to release hidden frequencies of his or her being from their hiding place. Finally, the chapter attributes love's power to galvanize us to its unparalleled capacity to connect us to the echo of the missing Thing.

Keywords: romantic love; “refound object”; originary (non)object; narcissism; ethical failure; idealization; frequencies of being

Chapter.  9105 words. 

Subjects: Philosophy

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