My Unconventional Marriage or <i>ménage à trois</i> in Beijing

Xiaopei He

in As Normal as Possible

Published by Hong Kong University Press

Published in print June 2010 | ISBN: 9789622099876
Published online September 2011 | e-ISBN: 9789882206625 | DOI:
My Unconventional Marriage or ménage à trois in Beijing

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This chapter provides a narrative of the author's performance and retraces her unique tactics of setting an admirable example in turning the institution of heterosexual, monogamous, and monosexual marriage inside out. It also shows the vitality and pleasure of a possible queer politics and counter-public which prioritizes non-normative intimacies, coalition building, sex education, and advocacy over love, privacy, and the life-long couple form of marriage. Together with some other gay activists, she decided to organize a fake wedding to encourage further thinking about and discussion of the issues of marriage. She proposed to a gay activist who was a long-time friend, and a lesbian woman whom she had just met. There would be three of them in a marriage: one gay man and two lesbian women. The wedding ceremony was to claim that bisexuality is not a crime.

Keywords: heterosexual marriage; monogamous marriage; monosexual marriage; Beijing; queer politics; fake wedding; bisexuality

Chapter.  2111 words.  Illustrated.

Subjects: Society and Culture

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